When contemplating life’s struggles, I often think through
these situations in terms of how I would write about them. I think that mock-presenting my feelings and
developing outlooks helps me to see from a different angle as well as to
organize the different aspects of the situation. However, I’ve never been one to actually keep
a diary/journal. By nature, I’m a very private
person and for no specific reasons I don’t trust very easily. The idea of having my thoughts and feelings
be so public or tangibly available (as is the case with a physically diary/journal,
whether private or public), gives me some anxiety. Maybe it has something to do with the concept
of permanency that attaches itself to written history, I don’t necessarily want
to be tethered to my feelings within a given moment when, in the next, they can
change without the audience having seen the process through which that change
took place. I suppose, that process
would then be something else I could write about, but that could begin to become
a tiresome cycle.
In social media, we tend to document some of our day-to-day
experiences, but we rarely delve into how we feel about them. I love the fact that so many great memories
are recorded on Facebook and that I can so easily recall and see them. I can see a purpose to also having access to
a narrative in my own words about how I felt at the time because the distance
of time can blur that aspect of a memory.
Although I am hesitant to share overtly personal feelings and
experiences in a public online platform, I don’t explicitly think that it should
not be done. There is definite value in
doing so when it can and has helped so many people process emotions and develop
a stronger sense of self. How much of
oneself is poured into a post is really up to the writer. Oversharing is a subjective concept and will doubtlessly
be judged differently from reader to reader.
What one reader views as overshared information could be invaluably
helpful to the next reader.
I think that diaries and journals are so interesting to
other people because there is a concept that the experience is more personally
narrated which satisfies a voyeuristic nature that seems to be intrinsic to
human beings. Although the word ‘voyeur’
and its various forms can have a derogatory connotation, this nature could arise
from many different motives, whether out of curiosity or a desire to relate,
connect or feel less alone.
I think that diary/journal writing is somehow a hybrid of
writing in a stream of consciousness and writing with formal writing constraints
in mind. Perhaps this is because,
whether private or public, the writer is still writing with an ideal reader, or
rather an ideal listener, in mind. I say
‘ideal listener’ because I tend to view diary/journal keeping as a form of therapy,
a way to talk something through in a more structured manner. So, although writing can give a sense of
freedom to speak candidly, there is still often a desire to be heard. This may be where the concept of voice comes
in. This aspect of structured writing
that governs the stream of consciousness could be the influence of whatever
voice the writer has developed as they speak to their ideal listener. John Grisham points out, in his 2010 commencement
address to the graduating class of UNC, voice in writing is comprised of three essential
elements; clarity, authenticity, and voracity.
These three characteristics seem to sum up what one’s reasons would be
for adding meaning to the madness of stream-of-consciousness writing because where
there is an effort to build a relationship with one’s invisible ideal listener,
there must be an effort to seem reliable and relatable.
Whether a person is concerned with spelling errors and
organization should have to do with how their ideal listener is consuming the
material. If the diary/journal is private
and the ideal listener is only consuming what is written in concept, then these
features are less important. However, if
the medium of the diary/journal is online, then attention should be paid to
these features as a courtesy to the readers.
I think name dropping, skill boasting and things like that go along with
the concept of oversharing. The degree to which it is excessive is subjective and likely to be different from reader to
reader.
Work Cited:
Grishom, John. “2010 Commencement Address | UNC-Capel
Hill.” YouTube, 10 May 2010, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjRtXTPQ6wI
I like that you brought up social media as a different way to view recording our day to day lives. I honestly was only thinking about diary writing and how hard I find it to be consistent with something like that. Yet somehow I can be more consistent with the digital recording of my life that doesn't involve much personal writing.
ReplyDeleteFrom this I agree that I wouldn't feel entirely comfortable sharing deep personal things online. However, there are many people that I know who actually do feel comfortable with this. Your point that oversharing is viewed differently depending on the person is so incredibly true and not something that I considered. Having this difference of view point leads so many to judge people based on the information that they do or do not share online.